OPINION: Should Women Give Men Money? Yes, But Rarely

By Wangari

Should women give men money? Well… yes and no.

Yes, if it’s a one-time thing, a rare occasion. We’ve all been there. A little support isn’t a bad thing—sometimes, life hits hard, and you might choose to help. Might.

But as a long-term financial plan? That’s a big, loud no. If your money is being budgeted before it even lands in your account, that’s a sign from the Lord and all your ancestors to run.

Like they say (and you know they’re right), the money you give a man is the tuition fee for the lessons he’s about to teach you. You’ll help build him, support his dreams, remind him to eat and sleep—basically become his personal assistant/girlfriend—and then one day, boom! He’ll level up and leave you for his actual type.

Look, I’m not against supporting your partner—hear me out. But when it becomes constant, something changes. Not just in the bank account, but in the energy. Disrespect creeps in. And not because you feel superior, but because deep down you start feeling like you’re raising a grown child instead of being in a mutual relationship. It starts smelling like mommy issues and entitlement.

Dependency grows, and soon enough, you resent him. Not because you hate helping, but because you’re drained. Emotionally, mentally, and financially.

And can we talk about ambition? Ambitious men will hustle, even if it’s just a little bit. Almost sure the man you’d break a bank for will move mountains for another (if he wanted to, he would).

Because at the end of the day, when you keep giving, it blurs the lines. Are you genuinely loved or just being used? You start questioning the vibe, the affection, the future.

So yeah… be smart. Love, but don’t lose yourself. Be kind, but don’t be his paycheck.

But hey, if he’s been good, respectful, and it’s that once-in-a-blue-moon situation… go ahead. Send that man haircut money. Buy him the handkerchief, then use the “after all I did for you” card. Give him ten shillings (as the provider you are) when the bill comes. Men love a supportive lady.

Speaking on behalf of all ladies, we’d like to be Darshen, not Samuels.