Understand Life

By Derrick Obiye Mokaya

Life is like a series of decisions. Every day, we make choices—what to say, what to do, which path to follow. Some decisions feel small, like what to eat or what to wear, while others can change everything—where to live, who to trust, whether to take a risk or stay where it's safe. What’s scary is that we never really know how a single decision might affect the rest of our lives. But that’s also what makes decisions so powerful. Every choice you make shapes your future, even the ones you don’t think twice about.

The hardest part? There’s no perfect way to make a decision. Sometimes we hesitate, overthinking every possibility, afraid of making the wrong choice. Other times, we act on impulse and later wonder if we should’ve done things differently. And then there are moments when we don’t make a choice at all—when fear, doubt, or the opinions of others keep us stuck. But the truth is, no decision is ever completely right or wrong. Every choice teaches us something. Even mistakes lead to lessons, and lessons lead to growth.

It's easy to look back and think, What if I had chosen differently? But regret won’t change the past. What matters is how you move forward. Instead of fearing the unknown, trust yourself. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. You don’t have to be certain of every outcome. What you really need is the courage to choose, to take responsibility for your path, and to believe that no matter what happens, you have the strength to handle it.

So if you’re at a crossroads, unsure of what to do, remember this: no decision is wasted if it teaches you something. Trust your instinct, listen to your heart, and don’t let fear hold you back. The most important choice you can make is to believe in yourself—because in the end, the decisions you make today are the steps that will lead you to where you’re meant to be.